tenetnosce wrote:My issue here is that people seem to have a different standard for conduct when speaking about interactions with aliens then they do about humans. Why? Because their bodies are different from ours? I don't really get that.
Well, again, from "Visitors": "It is time now to recognize that nothing happens to you from another source. You are the source generating all experiences that you have."
It doesn't say "You are the source generating the experiences with the Grays"...no...we are the source generating ALL our experiences. I guess the "abduction" experience could be viewed as graduate level studies in YCYOR...it's not something we usually understand right off the bat, it takes real focus and application to reap the fruits of this understanding.
I think the same criticisms of the YCYOR crew apply here as well. When a five year old little girl is sexually abused by her father she did not consciously choose that. Period. Trying to explain the event using various metaphysical constructs only serves toward further dissociation from the experience, in my opinion.
There are countless examples of abuse, sexual and otherwise, where you can find evidence that the person actually invited the abuse through their words or actions. This does not make it O.K. Does a woman deserve to get raped because she was scantily dressed, piss drunk, and acting like a complete slut? Absolutely not.
This question (and variations thereof) has become the standard criticism of YCYOR. I may be uniquely qualified to answer it, since I myself, like one in four girls, was sexually abused by a close family member as a child, and I've had to work through a lot of resentment and victim consciousness myself in that regard.
I feel the memories of the abuse came up at a time when I was ready to begin integrating that with all I had learned about YCYOR. It wasn't enough for me to simply point the finger of blame at that family member, and leave it at that. It did not satisfy me on a soul level.
I finally had a reading from the Michael entity (michaelteachings.com) in which the reason for this situation came out. It seems that in a past life, I was an Inquisitor (!!!) and under my orders, I caused this person to undergo some horrible things. This information resonated with me, and I had some intuitive flashes confirming that scenario. The situation in this life was a balancing of that - self-chosen, I am sure.
Of course, one can choose to stay at the level of "He/she did me wrong"
but from what I have observed, this is not very conducive to growth.
I've been in a couple of survivors' groups and the incessant bitching and blaming, without any inclination to look deeper, got old very quickly. I find now, that I just can't be around that energy.
So why is there a different standard when talking about abductions? I maintain that abduction is a form of abuse. Yes, adopting a victim mentality toward the experience is counterproductive. Yet as with any form of abuse, the first step towards healing and preventing further occurences is to admit that abuse happened in the first place.
Again from my own experience, one does have to work through those feelings initially, but if we are to go beyond them, we generally have to open ourselves to a broader and deeper understanding. In the case of the Grays, we may resonate with what it says in Lyssa Royal's book, that the experimentation with the Zetas is the result of a very ancient agreement to work together on our co-evolution, and as Bashar says:
...you will only manifest the traumatic and dramatic fulfillment of your agreements when you deny the agreements themselves...What you have chosen...is a denied reality of the agreement. This denied reality of the agreement is what dictates how the visitations manifest for you. Therefore, you have chosen to not yet remember the calls of evolution. You have chosen to not yet remember who you are and your relationship to other extraterrestrial beings. By those choices, you automatically choose that this interaction will occur in the realms of denial. On another level, one could say that you have chosen it in this way to remind yourselves that you are in denial and that you have the opportunity to change that state of reality. Drawing a situation into your reality, from which you must face your denial, will allow you to begin to remember.