Topic: Repressed emotions/releasing bad energy

I have always been one of those kind of guys who was too macho to cry.  I've held back the tears for the longest time, even during the most traumatic of events.  I had no idea back then that repressing emotions can really mess you  up.  Back when I was around 18 I experienced a very traumatic time in my life with my mother who is schizophrenic, she refused to take her medication, and she flipped out, and we lived with her for at least 6-12 months, and me during that whole time never allowing myself to cry.  Soon after that traumatic episode, I had a chronic tension headache for a year or 2, and after that I developed a very mild depressive state that has stayed with me to this day.....I am now 34.  I became spiritual and more aware of who I am, and have been medidating almost daily for the last 3 or 4 years.  Yet I still have this dark cloud following me.  Anyone have any medidation ideas or anything that can help me rid myself of this bad energy stuck inside of me, that I just can't seem to release......I am considering going to a Reiki healer........any suggestion?

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All options are valid.

A question to ponder would be why do you feel there is a dark cloud/energy around you?

Any emotion is better to express, than repress.  The energy must flow somewhere.  Then, afterwards, it is best to analyze and contemplate the reasons, the nuances of the creation of the emotion.
See the purpose of the feelings.
See any thoughts/beliefs that helped build such feelings or emotions.  It is not a matter of control, it is a matter of understanding.

Those are my thoughts, take care.

Love is Knowledge is Light

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I hope someone replies with helpful suggestions.  I could use it myself.  I've been afflicted with bouts of extreme anger lately.  I make a deal over the phone, manu y manu, man to man and then he comes into the store and see's different options, and like an immature child wants to change everything, and I have to answer to the owner of the store.  I can't simply concede to these sudden change of plans.  I could simply say I need to get back to the gym.  I've lapsed for a couple of years.  I'm old enough to know better, though.  It'll only make me a more vital and in-shape angry person.  All day today, I've been wanting to break someones jaw.  I would never do it, but the thoughts alone make me guilty. 

So far, the only thing I know of is that free will simply means that I have autonomy over what my attention is directed to.  I try to direct it away from these angry thoughts.  Maybe sleeping more than six hours every night would be a good idea also.  So there you have it, I'm doing this shit to myself. roll

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You could try learning a technique called "focusing", there are a few books you could get from Amazon. Read some Eckhart Tolle material, especially when he talks about the "pain-body". Above all become loving and accepting towards yourself.

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This may work wonderfully for You, Almeirhria!
The time is more than right for this uplifting process, imho.

The process is laid out in a very safe and methodic way on this first link:

http://www.solarhealing.com/sgprocess.htm

http://www.solarhealing.com/sungazing.htm

http://www.solarhealing.com/default.htm

Just a suggestion if You do decide to do it...try to commit 30 minutes a day at sunrise or sunset for a nice serene nature meditation...continuing to face the sun in meditation with your eyes closed after you do your 'build up' in increments with eyes open.

http://forum.noblerealms.org/viewtopic.php?id=2287

6 (edited by covertmetaphor 2008-01-12 09:36:17)

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If you have any questions on the following please feel free to email me. I love helping people this way.

Here is a list of things that I have found to give measurable and noticeable results:

1. Dr. Christopher S. Hyatt's and Dr. Israel Regardie's Radical Undoing Exercises

This exercises are somewhat based off of the work of Wilhelm Reich and his ideas of Character Armor. They release chronic tension and it is not unusual to have long lost memories float up to your conscious mind and your body automatically take on the emotions associated with those memories. At that point you just let it out. I never knew how much I had buried deep inside me until I began doing these exercises everyday.

These exercises produce a phenomenon known as tetny to rebirthing practitioners. It is a tingling feeling in the hands and feet, sometimes around the solar plexus. It can be accompanied by fear, sadness, and anger, which is a good thing because you know you are digging old baggage up and releasing. The wonderful thing is you're always pretty much aware of what you are releasing. It is an extraordinary experience to watch your body spontaneously cry, scream, and laugh. It made me realize the absurdity of all the masks we wear.

2. Rebirthing / Pranayama

Emotions are intimately connected to the breath. This is easily verified by observing your breathing when you are calm, angry, excited, sad, etc.

I use a CD called The Healing Art of Conscious Breathing which helps you keep track of a circular breath pattern. When you first start breathing exercises it almost feels like you are dying sometimes. An overwhelming fear is sometimes felt. Eventually you break through it and experience intense releases.

Pranayama is good too but I suggest if you go this route to take some classes. More advanced Pranayama can be dangerous and seriously screw up your body.

3. Yoga Nidra

Deep relaxation is overall good therapy for healing repressed emotions. Yoga Nidra allows me to achieve lucid dreams states very easily and work out what the cause of a problem is. Just know that not all Yoga Nidra CD's are equal. Most are bad and a few are very good.

I usually perform a Yoga Nidra sessions directly after my Radical Undoing and Breathing Exercises. After all three it isn't uncommon to feel like you're high on some happy drug with a permanent smile on your face.

4. Hatha Yoga and Chi Gung

I find Hatha Yoga and Chi Gung are good ways to connect with your body. Light Hatha Yoga is overall good practice but you'll want to increase the intensity until you begin to truly perceive the mind/body connection. Most all sickness is psychosomatic.

5. Alexander Technique

This technique is a way to carry your body in all activities with the least amount of tension. Unfortunately you can't really learn this by yourself. You need to find a good teacher to show you and correct your mistakes. Many singers, dancers, and actors swear by this.

You might notice that all of these techniques have much to do with the body. I have experimented with meditation, hypnosis, psychotherapy, and the like and I can tell you in terms of really releasing all past baggage, you need to involve your body first and finish with meditation, etc. There is a reason why Yogis and Chi Gung Masters deal intensely with the body first before they sit for hours in motionless meditation. There are physical counterparts to Chakras. The physical, astral, and mental bodies are all intimately connected.

From my own experiments I can tell you there is a intimate connection between mind and body. I wholeheartedly recommend working daily on your body to release all the tension cause by past trauma. The results are almost guaranteed.

Perhaps I should expand on this and develop it into a comprehensive article. Maybe some might find the information helpful.

7 (edited by covertmetaphor 2008-01-12 09:44:49)

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Antaeus wrote:

I hope someone replies with helpful suggestions.  I could use it myself.  I've been afflicted with bouts of extreme anger lately.  I make a deal over the phone, manu y manu, man to man and then he comes into the store and see's different options, and like an immature child wants to change everything, and I have to answer to the owner of the store.  I can't simply concede to these sudden change of plans.  I could simply say I need to get back to the gym.  I've lapsed for a couple of years.  I'm old enough to know better, though.  It'll only make me a more vital and in-shape angry person.  All day today, I've been wanting to break someones jaw.  I would never do it, but the thoughts alone make me guilty. 

So far, the only thing I know of is that free will simply means that I have autonomy over what my attention is directed to.  I try to direct it away from these angry thoughts.  Maybe sleeping more than six hours every night would be a good idea also.  So there you have it, I'm doing this shit to myself. roll

Oh yes I forgot about regular exercise. That is so important too. Going to the gym is so helpful for me as well. It makes a world of difference. Just working out can release bottled up emotions, plus the added benefits of releasing norepinephrine into your brain which acts as a kind of buffer against brain chemicals which cause stress and anxiety. And like you said sleeping is important. It is best to go to bed every night at the same time and sleep more than 6 hours. At least 7.

I think many people are screwed up simply because they don't sleep enough, don't exercise, and eat mainly a staple of preprocessed food, let alone all the other problems.

8 (edited by titmouse_ 2008-01-12 19:02:51)

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covertmetaphor wrote:

I think many people are screwed up simply because they don't sleep enough, don't exercise, and eat mainly a staple of preprocessed food, let alone all the other problems.

Sometimes it gets REAL simple, doesn't it.

One other problem is cognitive dissonance. Our hypocrisy causes internal conflicts that manifest as aggression, depression, anger, etc. We believe one thing in our hearts yet we fail to take appropriate actions in our real lives; justifying that we are powerless because of "the rules". We see in others the victim status and blame them for not seeing the big picture. If they would only wake up and see the light.......



"The people that are trying to make the world worse never take a day off, why should I? Light up the darkness."
~~Bob Marley

Fun fact: Great Tits are common in Europe

To know love is to know trust; to know oneself is to know truth
~~carefulcarpenter


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eethie wrote:

I have always been one of those kind of guys who was too macho to cry.  I've held back the tears for the longest time, even during the most traumatic of events.  I had no idea back then that repressing emotions can really mess you  up.  Back when I was around 18 I experienced a very traumatic time in my life with my mother who is schizophrenic, she refused to take her medication, and she flipped out, and we lived with her for at least 6-12 months, and me during that whole time never allowing myself to cry.  Soon after that traumatic episode, I had a chronic tension headache for a year or 2, and after that I developed a very mild depressive state that has stayed with me to this day.....I am now 34.  I became spiritual and more aware of who I am, and have been medidating almost daily for the last 3 or 4 years.  Yet I still have this dark cloud following me.  Anyone have any medidation ideas or anything that can help me rid myself of this bad energy stuck inside of me, that I just can't seem to release......I am considering going to a Reiki healer........any suggestion?

I can really resonate with you, eethie, I was just the same, living 'up north' in the UK, when men were men and the women were, too.:D.

Try out any or all the suggestions you have been/will be given, but by all means, be gentle with your self. Fact is, you were not responsible for the events that happened, and you were under extreme stress. But you are not your emotions, you are not your feelings, you are not your mind and you are not even your physical body. You are a gentle conciousness that has been severely tested, and is still standing.

I second the Eckhart Tolle books recommendation, especially 'The Power of Now'. I have lost the links, but have the PDF files, please email me if you would like them. F*ck all the karmic crap. Forgive yourself. Love yourself. Take care of yourself.

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homeopthic remedy natrum muriaticum - it will definitely uncork your emotions and enable things to flow freely.   For me it can even overdo to where I cry a little too easily for my taste.    To start I'd suggest taking 3 dry pills of Nat. Mur. 30C strength.   Wait and observe a few days to see what effect (if any) you get.   If you get no effect it probably isn't the right remedy for you, if you do get an effect wait until it has petered out before taking another dose.   Taking the dose again while the effects are still active is dangerous and produce an "aggravation" of your problems.

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titmouse_ wrote:
covertmetaphor wrote:

I think many people are screwed up simply because they don't sleep enough, don't exercise, and eat mainly a staple of preprocessed food, let alone all the other problems.

Sometimes it gets REAL simple, doesn't it.

One other problem is cognitive dissonance. Our hypocrisy causes internal conflicts that manifest as aggression, depression, anger, etc. We believe one thing in our hearts yet we fail to take appropriate actions in our real lives; justifying that we are powerless because of "the rules". We see in others the victim status and blame them for not seeing the big picture. If they would only wake up and see the light.......



"The people that are trying to make the world worse never take a day off, why should I? Light up the darkness."
~~Bob Marley

Good point. I think most people know deep down what would make them happy, but they fail to move in that direction. Instead they stay where they are and then to make matters worse go around proving their story. I think we're all guilty of this. Many people love to medicate themselves when they could also just as easily drop everything and walk away. Your current situation is consequence of your own decisions.

I decided once that I would no longer sugarcoat my social interactions. I would be direct, honest, and would never compromise myself. It felt great but truthfully most people are addicted to "the rules" and will attack those who don't play by them. I haven't exactly been popular among the herd by avoiding internal conflict. Many people fear that kind of action.

I see the victim status in others as well but I can't blame them. I see the big picture but that doesn't stop me from slipping into the victim role every now and then as well.

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covertmetaphor wrote:

I think most people know deep down what would make them happy, but they fail to move in that direction. Instead they stay where they are and then to make matters worse go around proving their story. I think we're all guilty of this. Many people love to medicate themselves when they could also just as easily drop everything and walk away. Your current situation is consequence of your own decisions.

I decided once that I would no longer sugarcoat my social interactions. I would be direct, honest, and would never compromise myself. It felt great but truthfully most people are addicted to "the rules" and will attack those who don't play by them. I haven't exactly been popular among the herd by avoiding internal conflict. Many people fear that kind of action.

I see the victim status in others as well but I can't blame them. I see the big picture but that doesn't stop me from slipping into the victim role every now and then as well.

I agree. This is one of the most problematic aspects of our society. People are, you could say, compelled to 'sugarcoat' and compromise themselves in order to be accepted. I've attempted to be as truthful as possible with people, but I tend to fall back on 'sugarcoating' you could say. It certainly isn't easy, and demands discipline via 'self-observation', meditation, and a great amount of patience. I know that I could achieve conscious choice, true will, but I'm indecesive, somewhat pessimistic, and lazy.

"There cannot be progress without expression. There cannot be expression without separation. There cannot be separation without progress."-Ouroboros

13 (edited by titmouse_ 2008-01-13 00:48:01)

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covertmetaphor wrote:

Your current situation is consequence of your own decisions.

I decided once that I would no longer sugarcoat my social interactions. I would be direct, honest, and would never compromise myself. It felt great but truthfully most people are addicted to "the rules" and will attack those who don't play by them. I haven't exactly been popular among the herd by avoiding internal conflict. Many people fear that kind of action.

Sometimes it's best if you "own it",  so to speak.  We do victimize ourselves much of the time--its unavoidable, as it seems. Although it isn't always a bad thing.  We learn in many different ways--most often by experience.  If we resist spiritual growth our higher selves will create conditions where we must change; this is a compensating mechanism which assists us to experience life and grow.  At some point in the process its difficult to tell the difference between a good result that leads us to stagnation, or to a poor result that eventually launches us upward.  Depression itself is a compensation.  It is a time where the mind and body can heal--like a cocoon state. We can emerge more beautiful and more capable of facing the challenges of life once we finally get tired of the bordum of doing little other than feeling bad. Our narcissism must die before we can grow to embrace others as we in turn desire them to accept us. Bit by bit we develop.  Those who resist spiritual growth pay a very heavy price farther down the line.  To override the consequences of these natural unconscious forces people will embellish their self-importance to society and attach far too much value to the sugar-coated false-self. They demand more sugar and more deception; and if you don't give it they will punish with all the social means available to them. This is the root of inauthenticity--the needs and desires to feel acceptable to the "inner circle".  If you don't fit "in" to the circle then you get thrown "away". Sugar helps to feed the beast's appetite  and keep it stimulated--sometimes its just wiser to keep some sugar cubes in your pocket while you journey through the jungle.  They won't do much good once you jump in the ocean.

Remember, life is a cycle; a wave--ride the crest long enough and you crash into the seashore. Its up to you to paddle back out to catch the next wave. Blaming others who take a more routine life won't make you a better surfer, nor cause them to seek greater challenges. You'll never convince the herd that authenticity is a more enriching path, for they fear the Great White Shark and your personal integrity does not ease their pain, like sugar cubes.


"Small fish swim in schools; the Great White Shark swims alone"
~~carefulcarpenter

Fun fact: Great Tits are common in Europe

To know love is to know trust; to know oneself is to know truth
~~carefulcarpenter


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titmouse_ wrote:

Remember, life is a cycle; a wave--ride the crest long enough and you crash into the seashore. Its up to you to paddle back out to catch the next wave. Blaming others who take a more routine life won't make you a better surfer, nor cause them to seek greater challenges. You'll never convince the herd that authenticity is a more enriching path, for they fear the Great White Shark and your personal integrity does not ease their pain.


"Small fish swim in schools; the Great White Shark swims alone"
~~carefulcarpenter

This reminds me of a dream I once had. In the dream, I was swimming underwater with a group of friends. A shark approached us. I told them to get out of the water as I blocked the shark's path, taking on my ideal role as the 'protector'. As the shark approached, I realized that I couldn't face the shark. Right as the shark reached me, I levitated out of the water.

"There cannot be progress without expression. There cannot be expression without separation. There cannot be separation without progress."-Ouroboros

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Hermit Brad wrote:

Right as the shark reached me, I levitated out of the water.

....and body-surfed with great delight and poise!

Fun fact: Great Tits are common in Europe

To know love is to know trust; to know oneself is to know truth
~~carefulcarpenter


1+1=1