I am totally fed up.... (Page 4 of 4)

Marcus, as far as your description of American birthing practices goes, it is pretty outdated from my experience.  While most American birthing procedures leave much to be desired, I think those massive nurseries are basically a thing of the past.  Almost all hostpitals here leave the baby in the room with the mother following the birth, and if the mother is breastfeeding, they will put the baby directly on the mother's breast first thing.  For instance, when my daughter was born (and my friends with children confirm that this is normal now), the only time they took her away from us was the next day, for about 30 seconds to measure her (I would have gone with them, but I  was pretty tired by then).  They recommended for us to stay 48 hours, but nobody tried to stop us when we left the next morning instead (maybe 20 hours, and only because my wife was worn out).  The only thing they forced on us was the hospital birth, since we are on state medical and they won't pay for home births (and a birth is not something I'm gonna DIY if I don't have to).
The doctors and all the nurses at the county medical center were very supportive and strongly recommended breast-feeding too, and this is the norm now.  So, while the medical profession in general is pretty rotten, at least in this aspect they have improved dramatically in the last few decades.

  Relax!  Nobody's blaming anyone.   We're exposed to pretty much the same stuff, but our reaction to it is our choice.  Everyone's responsible for their own choices, just like Montalk's signature says.