Well, if I could put my 2 cents in....Im a mom, wife, grandmother. I had my first child at 19 back in 1976. I was still practically a baby! I now have 3 kids, My first is now 30, my son is 23 and my youngest is 11. I dont regret one second that I had my kids. I am so lucky that they are great wonderful loving kids...Yea, we had some teenage tribulations along the way, and I still have that to get thru with my youngest, but I was by far worse a teenager than my kids were. Actually they were great. I guess some of us are just cut out to be parents and some arent...no big deal. Id rather have someone be honest about not wanting kids than end up with a kid they resent and didnt want to begin with. To be honest, I absolutelly adore my grandkids, but am thankful when their parents pick them up. At 49, Im just not into the little kid catering anymore. But hey, dont feel guilty because you dont want kids, and I think that is being honest and fair. Kids pick up on a lot more than we think, and they know when they arent wanted. Some say you can have itall, full time job and kids...well, I think something ends up lacking along the way, and its usually the kids, unless you are extraordinay parents. Young people want to have it all NOW, but are ill prepared for what is entailed. Children need lots of your time, and unless you are willing to go all the way with that, you are in for bumpy times along the road. My kids were lucky that they knew I was always here if they needed me. I felt bad for one of my daughters friends at their 5th grade graduation on Friday. After the ceremony I saw her standing there all alone and asked what was wrong....well, neither her mom or sister showed up to cheer her on... so I stood there and held her while she cried. Some parents dont realize that sometimes the littlest of things can hurt a child... and I dont blame her for feeling hurt. So unless you know you can be there for the important things in your kids life, well, think twice.about having them. I see those situations way too often and I have to stand there and see the aftermath. As far as movie stars and such having kids, well, they can afford the nannies and all that shit. You can be damn sure Brittany Spears wasnt getting up with that baby every 2hrs thu the night.
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