Okay, PLEASE don't take offense to this! I love ALL you people, but some are more sensitive than others (heck, I'm one of the more sensitive ones out there!). And I especially don't want to offend Thook (what can I say, I'm partial to animal lovers!).
1. You don't need to add oil to your pasta water (I even used to do this). Logic dictates that oil and water don't mix, hence the oil only floats on the surface of the water, not coming into contact with the pasta much, if at all. Sufficient water and occasional stirring prevent the sticking.
2. You should NEVER rinse your pasta after draining (Alton Brown would have a cow, specifically an organically grass fed one, hopefully!). This removes the starches, which are instrumental in correlating the sauce with the pasta.
3. Do not put any EVO oil/butter on your pasta after draining it (I used to do this as well), unless you're intent is to eat it that way (i.e., without any additional sauce). This creates a barrier which resists the sauce from sticking to it. You can always add the EVO oil to the sauce. I prefer to put it in the sauce pan first, then add the remaining ingredients.
4. Nice touch on adding the bay leaf to the pasta water. I usually add a sprig of wild purple basil (don't ask for this if you want a highly manicured lawn...), and some Celtic or Himalayan sea salt.
(can you tell I love pasta . . . ?)
5. Many Americans overcook their pasta (I used to do this as well). I usually cook it until it's barely al dente (still kinda crunchy), then mix it with the sauce and let it soak up those ingredients, cooking a bit more. Conventionally, a small bit of sauce is added to the pasta, but I likes my sauce!
6. Sugar? In my beloved guacamole?! Oh well, to each his own. I just try to keep that "ingredient" out of as much of my food as possible. I try to substitute it with raw sugar or maple syrup, if it's really needed. One trick is to add pureed carrots to your pasta sauce instead of sugar. Their high sugar content buffers the acidity of the sauce just as well, and adds additional nutritional value. Parmesan/Romano cheese can be used in this way also, and thickens the sauce too.
There's an old saying, "If someone asks for dessert, then the main course wasn't sufficiently satisfying..." That puts a lot of pressure on a cook!
Here's something you really can't make a mistake with (even most of us bachelors can handle it...)
Mexican Hangover
Take some organic salsa (whatever Scoville unit variety you like...) and mix in a ripe, cubed avocado (more or less to taste). Add some Tequila (to taste). Once you mix this all together, you'll realize why I call it a "Mexican Hangover" . . .
Magis Amica Veritas
I would rather control myself, than someone else.
en courage (heart)
in spire (spirit)
en thuse (theos)