• From: The Singularity
  • Registered: 2005-09-23

Re: Spiritual Dating Site

Hi there!  I have a few thoughts I would like to share on your dating service idea.  I have used these in the past with little success. . . not in finding a date. . .but in finding somebody who is truly compatible.

The problem I found is that it is too easy for people to project the image of who they want to be, or who they think their potential partner wants.  Other challenges include the attractiveness of these sites for people of low consciousness who are just looking to suck energy indiscriminately from whoever will give it to them.

My suggestion is to implement systems which provide for more transparency.  One system might be similar to the feedback system used on Ebay.  Also providing certain statistics such as number of emails sent and received can alert other users to people who are just fishing for attention.

I know that a major element of attractiveness for this type of site is anonymity, but I think it is taken too far leading to abuse of the original intent of the site which is to bring together people of like mind.  If people are truly looking for a beneficial relationship, then there is no need to hide or disguise their intentions.

Of course, I don't mean for you to give out personally identifiable information.  I mean only to make the information about a person's use of the system available to other users.

Hope that helps!

It is not for us to understand love, but simply to make space for it.

17 Reply by tenetnosce (edited by tenetnosce 2005-09-23 09:32:56)

  • From: The Singularity
  • Registered: 2005-09-23

Re: Spiritual Dating Site

impatiens wrote:

Said that women in Asian countries typically don't experience (or have) menopause like women in Western countries do, and that it was due largely to diet, consuming large quantities of beans, lentils... Not sure if this is true that they don't menopause, or maybe that they don't have the horrible menopausal experiences/symptoms...

There is a body of research that indicates that in addition to diet, etc., a primary factor in the appearance of symptoms has to do with the mental attitude toward menopause. 

For example, women in societies who do not view menopause negatively, but rather as a rite of passage leading to greater personal power do not experience the same symptoms as women encultured to resist the process, even though their biochemical markers may be identical..

It is not for us to understand love, but simply to make space for it.
  • From: Peru
  • Registered: 2004-08-06

Re: Spiritual Dating Site

Thanks for your feedback tenetnosce (and everyone else that's commented), you certainly have some interesting ideas.

As I think I mentioned in a post awhile back, the spiritual dating site idea is on a backburner right now, and more than likely will never see the light of day now.

However, me & Jase plan on introducing social networking features to our Holistic Local site, hopefully before the end of the year. If you've seen www.friendster.com then I want to try and do a similar thing for holistic spiritually minded people. But the focus will be more on social networking and friendship rather than love & dating, however there's no reason why people can't use it to find love as well.

Also, for those that haven't looked since my first post, we've recently launched a new design for Holistic Local. Our UK site is the busiest and most successful so far, with over 1100 members. Checkout www.holisticlocal.co.uk

Overall we have nearly 2000 members now but that should hopefully increase significantly before Christmas.

Andy

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