zonabi wrote:so... what can we do now ?
I think about this often as well--not in the sense of wanting "to be useful," or in the sense of assuming a white knightish posture, but I think about it in terms of risking to grow.
Once one wakes up to the arbitrariness of the world (instead of seeing it as unchangeabe and "just the way it is"), accepts the flow of intuition and ignites a creative will, I've found there are opportunities upon opportunities to transmit the right information, or maybe just love, all around me.
The difficulty for me has entered with HOW to clothe your intuitions and insights and compassion that bubbles up from you because you've broken through the mentality that true change is impossible, and have awakened the (conscious) ability to apply intention to "calm the seas" of thought and emotion.
So many people are caught in their vocabularies, and can't seem to accept the essence of information coming their way. And to boot, most people seem to be unused to relating to each other in what I'd call a "horizontal" way.
To me, "Horizontal" means, well, on-the-same-level, outside of judgment, not the same, but equal--honoring the divine spark in who or what you address.
Conversly, "Vertical" denotes a mode of consciousnes that is categorical, that rates everything in terms of the duality of "good" and "evil," and fosters roles.
So what does this have to do with anything?
This is what I'm doing...
For about five years or so now I've been risking with various people, sharing with them my view that there are two modes of consciousness (Vertical=judgmental; Horizontal=nonjudgmental) and have asked those people if they want to try to consciously participate in a horizontal relationship with me.
It's been rough-going...But it has created true friends.
Most of the people (I guess there have been about ten), just think I'm eccentric, and agree to try to develop that kind of awareness between us just out of interest for where it will go. But it's led to wonderful acceleration in my friendships.
I recently proposed this "experiment" to a long-time friend, and it's amazing how much more we've gotten to know each other since we began to actively acknowledge each other as ever-changing beings.
If you stop to think you might be surprised at how often people (your own friends) or you yourself unconsciously reinforce unwanted patterns. Most don't do it out of malice, or even consciousness, but do it because--for whatever reason--we've been conditioned to relate to people through labeling. "He's a type-A...Well, of course, she would say that, she's an Aries!...Always the cynic..."
Of course it would be extremely difficult to relate to people without some order of labels, but what I'm getting at is: How often do we give a person a chance to be different? Or anything they want? By relating to people AS IF they are a certain way, whether we're relating verbally or not, we could be setting them up to be that way--unless they're awake to choice and clearly know who they are.
So...This is what I'm doing. I've been inviting friends, and sometimes strangers, to explore a relationship with as few as labels as possible. To relate with the acknowledgment that we've verbs, not nouns.
It's changed my life...
You can't change a tiger's stripes,
but you can avoid its teeth.