Marcus wrote:I suspect other people have experienced this in one way or another - so I am interested in the causes for it.
Throughout most my life in any given situation I have generally gone unnoticed by people. If I sit in a crowd, people won't really see me. When I was at work in the office, anything I said was either not hear or put to the "bottom of the pile". In discussions I am often over-talked, or not heard or just plain ignored.
I learnt different speaking methods and body language and that could sometimes get me more noticed. But that's besides the point...
The samething often happens on the Internet; if I post in forums, the thread will go unread - yet someone else will post the same subject and the thread will fill up with hundreds of replies. So I am guessing it is nothing physical in nature that causes this.
Then when and if attention does come to what I have said or done...the focus is usually very intense, more so than others would recieve.
To be clear though - I am not really bothered by this, and in most cases it's quite nice to be kinda invisible. But - I wonder why this happens? Any thoughts?
Did somebody say something??
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haha j/k
I know what you mean about being invisible....have known of incidents of this happening. I know montalk had this one time when he went to Walgreen's, (a drugstore) when we lived in Florida, maybe he'll talk about his experience later. It was really weird.
I'm not sure what the explanation is for going chronically unnoticed and overlooked...then getting overzealous attention. I have noticed the overzealous attention thing, and if anything, that's the problem I have. I had such a problem with that in Florida, couldn't go anywhere without people staring, saying obscure weird things, or flat out harrassing me. It was out of control there. Here in VA things are mellow. Maybe it's a regional thing? I don't know. I have so many stories / experiences / theories, I'm not sure where to begin. But just wanted to say that I do know what you're talking about, and you're probably not imagining the phenomenon.
Cipher's "goodbye" post made me ponder the idea of nice posters who post meaningful stuff but who just get....overlooked. My initial thought was, Well, oftentimes I agree with what you said, and I just don't have anything to contribute. But then I wondered, is that all there is to it? What if there's something else going on that I'm not aware of? I don't know, maybe some people just easily fade into the background, while others stick out? At any rate, I try to make an effort to acknowledge good posts that seem to be overlooked or not getting the attention they should so that there aren't more people out there feeling ignored....
btw....I once was flipping through a book called "The Urban Witche's Handbook" and there's a spell techinique for making oneself invisible. I wish I could do that....wouldn't mind fading into the background one bit! I know that in other religions and spiritual practices they talk about this. Nothing takes it to the level that Shamans do though. They go above and beyond invisibilty and get into the realms of shapeshifting or flat out disappearing from reality. Must be nice to be able to do that. See the Don Juan books for more on this...
"Life's journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting "Holy shit ... what a ride!" - Anonymous
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