New Age Lie - Ignore Negativity (Page 1 of 2)

Yeah, this is something I mention in my abductions write up I'm doing.  This is what I wrote, (rather than trying to paraphrase I'll just cut and paste!  ) 

"....you have to realize what the typical New Age mindset is – Love n light.  Do not acknowledge the negative, ever.  If you acknowledge it then you attract it in, and it means you yourself must be dark.  So plug your ears, close your eyes and go "Lalala!  You don’t exist!"

It is their downfall, because the fact is, “negative" or “dark"  polarized souls do exist, doing negative, dark things.  And ignoring it does not “make it go away."   It only worsens things...."

It goes on to explain how burying one's head in the sand does not make the negative go away, and during those times when I've done that, (when faced with a neg entity or whatever) ignoring it only escalated the situation.

The situations did not stop until I acknowledged them and faced them head on...but without fear or anger.  And that's the key.  But you can't ignore stuff. 

The same could be said about bullies and predators.  Until you stand up for yourself and confront the situation and put them in their place, it will only get worse, and worse, and worse.  Ignoring something never solved anything.

It did seem that way.   But what about this:   There's a fine line between ignoring the dark/negativity and burying your head in the sand, versus thinking "You know what......I don't want that as my reality.  I'd like to go down a different path from where the rest of the herd is going.  There's another, better way to be."  Sometimes the two mindsets get confused.   Possibly in "The Secret" they were advocating the latter rather than the former?

"positivity and awareness in tandem" ... "the compassion that borders on sorrow, the determination that borders on anger, which leads to sobriety and corretion instead of sorrow bordering on doom and anger bordering on hatred, which leads to skewed perceptions and passivitiy or blind reactivity"

that's saying it nicely -

when i was much younger - it was easy to see the things people were doing to each other around me - and how some people sometimes trapped themselves in energy-draining drama cycles ... sometimes - i would get into situations and act the some of those same things in myself ...

what i understand now is that - if you're an angry person - or if you're a violent person - or you are a snobby person - or whatever - like qualities or things about you and you may have within yourself, in your psyche - first of all, you're not those things all the time - but there may be moments in which those things "pop out" - but if you're aware them as they happen - like Lyra said - if you can face those things without "fea"r or anger" or even "guilt" or "shame" - just to face them - then that in itself is what burns those things away ... i've seen it in myself ...

(i'm still melting in the heat of the city)

Well, from what I've seen it's been quite different.  I'm thinking of several situations I witnessed as a kid where kids flipped out and finally fought back against some bully types that were always needling them, and it stopped the problem, right then and there.  It was not a situation of the bully who kept punching repeatedly until his knuckles were sore, resulting in a painful confrontation for the target.  I haven't seen that, although certainly, it may happen.   In one of the cases it was this kid named Raymond who was just always getting picked on for being fat and nerdy.  This went on until 8th grade, and then one day, in the middle of an assembly in the gymnasium, everybody heard this wild, almost primitive, animalistic "AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!"  then a bunch of scuffling and the sounds of hitting and bodies being thumped.  It was Raymond.  Flipping out!   Some guys sitting behind Raymond in the bleachers were tormenting him, yet again, and he just LOST it.  He let out that primitive yell, lurched around, and just started WAILING on them.  The cheerleaders stopped in mid cheer, teachers began scrambling, the entire gymnasium got silent, watching, riveted! 

Nobody ever bothered Raymond again! 

Let's see...then there was Derek in 6th grade. He wasn't a nerd, but for some reason this bully named Dustin liked to torment him, because Derek was nice, which equated to "easy target."  Til Derek flipped out one day too, losing it.   Let out the animalistic yell, grabbed a chair, and smashed Dustin in the face with it.  Blood everywhere. 

Nobody ever bothered Derek again! 

I could go on!   But from what I've seen, confronting bullies goes differently from what you described here.  ANYway, don't mean to sidetrack things, just wanted to mention that....

  Sorry to hear about that, that sort of thing sucks, BIG time, when it involves parents.  That's sort of messed up that your mother wasn't doing anything to stop it and would even say something about "waiting for you to finally stand up for yourself."   Jeez louise!!   How horrible.  It's the same situation here, only substitute abusive dad with abusive mom.   When I was 18 she was pulling her usual abusive crap and had me literally backed into the kitchen counter corner, so I couldn't move, while she was screaming at me.   Her face is just evil, that's all I can say, and it's the last thing anybody would want right up in their own face, screaming.   Glad I don't look anything like her.  ANYway, so I'd gone through so much crap in life that by that point i was just numb, and stood there, refusing to show any emotion, kept glancing at my fingernails, bored.  That infuriated her and she kept hitting me in the head/face every time I did it.  So yeah, during this particular encounter, I finally snapped.  18 years of her total madness, and I went from apathetic/numb to crazy like a flip had been switched.  Zero to crazy in like 2 seconds.   It was so sudden she never saw it coming.  I let out "the yell", turned and ripped one of the carving knifes from the knife holder that was on the counter behind me, and just went after her.  Chased her around the kitchen table trying to stab her, screaming the whole time.

Even crazier is that I blocked it out of my mind within probably two days?  Just gone, poof, like it never happened.   The memory was triggered several years later when I was listening to my friend Gary recount a story about his mom backing him into the bathroom, screaming and going bonkers on him for the millionth time, and him flipping out and losing it and letting out the yell and ripping the towel rack off the wall then chasing her down the hall trying to attack her, screaming at her the whole time.   As he was telling me this story over  the phone my own experience began resurfacing.  It surged up, hazy at first, but gaining clarity, and I was like, Wait a minute.......this sounds familiar........I think I had that happen too.............with my mom..........I think..........I pulled a knife on her.........did I??  Did that really happen?........I think it did.......but I'm not sure..........I think I chased her around the kitchen with it and wanted to stab her...........but I'm not sure....... 

And this is me, the person who forgets NOTHING.   !   My mind just blocked it out though.  I had to actually call up my dad in Connecticut to ask him and verify once and for all whether this really happened!!!   I was like Dad......do you remember ever hearing anything about me grabbing a knife and chasing mom around the kitchen with it?

Immediately he was like, "Oh yeah, yeah, you did, I got the phone call after that happened...."

!!!!!!   It was real!  It actually happened!  Holy shit!  I thought.

I will say this though.........Pulling the knife on her stopped the abuse, overnight.  Never touched me again, but I was out within two months anyway.

Yeah, she was a classic "feeder" though, that's what her tactics centered around.  By ignoring her and refusing to feel or even show an emotional response she was not getting her "food."  Duck and run for cover when crossing paths with a feeder who is being starved out!!!     It can get very ugly.  They get desparate and will resort to some crazy things in order to get that reaction/food.   

BUT ANYWAY, so how about those New Agers?!?!    haha    Hope this didn't sidetrack things too much onto ignoring feeders/bullies/predators/Neg entities vs. squaring off with them, but it's a related concept, and one that most people have encountered in some form or another in their lives....

And this brings us back full circle as to why we can't ignore negativity.  There are feeders out there in the world, and if you ignore what they are, you'll get sucked dry.  Trying to see the best in people is good up to a certain point, but you do have to use discernment in order to protect yourself.  What I see a lot of in the metaphysical community is an admirable but naive desire to adhere to the "harm no one" edict.  However, you should include yourself at the top of that list, and subjecting yourself to being fed off of is not noble.