Dare I say. . . relationship? (Page 1 of 5)

Well that would (obviously) be an incorrect assumption.  And I'm delighted to hear, so soon even, that some people here have compatible partners.

Let me speak a bit from my own personal experience. 

In my own case, I felt that I was in that place of readiness, and I did attract a woman whom I thought I was highly compatible with.  We shared some incredible experiences together.  We really enjoyed each other's company, had a ton of fun together, and I really felt like there was mutual understanding.

I am a healer and a physician, and it has been a dream of mine to spend time with indigineous cultures around the planet and learn how they practice healing/medicine.  One day I'd like to set up an organization that takes groups of people on trips like this.

So I finally meet a person who sees past the illusions of every day life.  She loves to take pictures and paint.  She's telling me she wants to make documentaries and learn how to play the drums.  Truly a free spirit like me. . and so damn cute too! 

Well about a month into going back to school, she pops up and says this isn't what she wants, she's not ready for a love like this, she wants to be alone, etc.  Well obviously I can't control that, and if that's how she feels who am I to argue with it?  (OK well I did argue a little bit) 

And, no, I wasn't putting the pressure on her to make any decisions or committments, or force her into anything at all.  In my opinion, she got to the point where she would either have to come clean with her parents and friends about what she really wanted to do with her life, or get rid of the person who is saying "Go for it!"

The thing is I'm just left kind of scratching my head.  I'm not suicidally depressed or desperate or thinking I'll never find somebody else or any of that kind of pity-party stuff. 

I'm just thinking well. . WTF was that all about?

I mean, how clear does my intention need to be?  Umm. . yes I'd like to meet somebody who doesn't think marriage and kids is the end-point of life. . . and who wants to be in a healthy, loving, supportive relationship. . .and who doesn't have unresolved traumas to work through. . . and who has compatible dreams as mine. . . and oh yeah. . I want her to actually be ready to participate in them?  Can anybody "up there" give me the benefit of the doubt here?

The thing is I'm pretty much used to manifesting what I want in life with little difficulty.  It just seems in the realm of relationships I keep getting this "close but no cigar" result. All of the elements are present, they are just scattered amongst different individuals. 

I can't help but feel like there is something very simple here that I am missing.

Actually, that's kinda the next item on our list for our Holistic Local site (details of which are in the business and economy section). Whilst it won't be specifically for dating, what we plan on doing is offering a public membership (alongside of our existing professional/business membership) that enables people to post their details, and then search for other people in their area that have similar interests and contact them. This could then possibly lead to friendships or relationships. We'll probably have an early version out within the next month or so.

I can't say with certainty what's going on in your case, I can only take a stab at guessing.   Possibly consider the following maybe, I don't know:

- Anytime you're thinking about what sort of relationship you'd like, or during those times when you're actively requesting, make sure to include the part about "long term", like you mentioned in your post.  Details help.   When I did my request, I didn't even know about reality manifestion and wasn't consciously trying to do anything, but I did include some very important details...............

I wanted a guy with NO ex wives.  NO KIDS.  No "baggage."   This means he'll most likely be a couple of years younger than me, and that's totally fine, because I don't look or act my age anyway, so shoot, it's all good!     And I wanted a guy who was open to a long term relationship.  Not one of those 6 week whirlwind dealies..................but someone who wasn't all about "getting married, having kids, the house in suburbia, the minivans and SUV's, shuttling kids to soccer practice" and that horrible HORRIBLE lifestyle that I avoid like the plague.    I was looking to settle into a nice relationship - without marriage and kids - with someone who was compatible, and had certain personality traits.  And that's exactly what I got, everything I thought about in my checklist! 

So maybe try and make sure to include more details in your request / intents, based on what you've discovered....?  You have to wade through relationships that don't work to learn and discover what you want and don't want and to figure out what to ask for.    All "negative" situations have their plus positive side! 

  haha!   That cracked me up, thanks for the laugh.     

Well, not for me, but for those out there who are alone, and navigating the cold cruel world...alone.  Key word being of course.....ALONE.        (like that added drama?   maybe it'll help put pressure on Neo...;)  hehe)     I like your expanded social networking idea though, that sounds pretty cool.  Lots of people would sign up for that in a second, I'm sure.

Alright, just saw Neomatrix's post....good idea!

Yes, love yourself, be happy on your own.  I'm another of those Wanderers who is without an intimate love relationship.  But, I am close to my
son (yes, I had a relationship long enough to make a baby) and that helps a lot.

I recall that Tobias was asked quite a few times by people who attended the Crimson Circle channelings, about why they were unsuccessful in forming long-lasting relationships, and he said that it would have been a distraction on their path.  I do believe there is a purpose in everything so I can buy that. 

He also said that trying to pull someone else into your life to make it more comfortable was a very Old Energy thing.  Still contempating that one.

Here's something from the new Q & A at Crimson Circle:

I confess though, that I haven't given up on the possibility of meeting a compatible guy.  In fact, I just connected with someone new who seems promising, we'll see how it goes!

Well I gotta bite on that one.  Maybe I'll come back later and provide more details. . . but suffice it to say for right now that what you're talking about could very well to quite possibly be what's going on.  I've learned enough about life to sense when something smacks of manipulation. 

I've always figured that giving that scenario any more attention would just make things worse.  But let's assume for a moment that it is happening.  What now?  Intending and manifesting go out the door?  Sorry dude, better luck next life?

It kind of sounds like you are saying, you can have whatever you want, unless you are an abductee, then you can only have what *they* will let you have.

Sorry, but I'd rather end my contract with physical life than continue in a sick and twisted contract with some alien or military force.  I want to love and to be loved.  That is my right as a spirit of God.  Does that count for anything? 

When does the manipulation end?  How does it end?  Surely this can't go on forever.

Yeah, it's actually probably a lot more widespread than most people realize.  I recommend reading up on alien / abduction material that specifically delves into the relationships aspect of things (if you're an abductee, and you think it might pertain to you...)  Eve Lorgen is one good source to look at.  She wrote a book called "The Alien Love Bite", and also has a website.  I know there are other sources as well.

No, I don't necessarily think so.  It's a bit tricky.  But first I have to clarify that just because something is happening to me, or something is a certain way for me, doesn't mean it's the situation for you.  And vice versa.   But I do believe in one generalized across-the-board concept though, that if one is an abductee than all aspects of their lives are going to be touched...including relationships.  ESPECIALLY relationships.  Depending on who your abductors are, there are going to be different areas of focus.  Some "aliens" are apparantly absolutely OBSESSED with the workings of human sexual relations, not only to feed off of, but just out of fascination in general.   Other aliens supposedly have specific breeding programs in mind and don't really give much of a hoot about the actual process of procreation.  They only care about what genes and DNA are going where.   When it comes to MILABS, I can't fully say what the deal is there.  I can only speak for myself.  And I've come away with the impression and the thought that I can only date "who I'm allowed to date."  I don't know if this is true...but it went through my mind.   So who knows. 

To give an idea.......................my last major boyfriend before my current one, which was back in California, had a Dad who was NSA.    Not former NSA.   Current NSA.   His job was an engineer of some sort working on nucleur weapons.  That was back in the 80's.  I don't know what they had him doing in the 90's.   But at the time I was with him I didn't know what the f*** the NSA was.    Seriously.  whoosh, over MY head.   NS what??  Never heard of it.  But my boyfriend's family even lived in Rockville Maryland for a yaar during a time when the Dad was transferred to their headquarters facility.  By the end of our so-called relationship, I began to realize that my boyfriend literally had split personalities.  Not only did he have splits, but by the end he was experiencing entire black outs / memory holes and gaps.   Entire sections of his life, missing.   Again, I had NO knowledge of mind control and programmed multiples and MILABS / government abductions and what they do to their personnel and their families.  I just knew...........this guy is seriously MESSED UP.   But by then the relationship was dead in the water anyway, so it didn't matter.   When my brother arrived in California and met him he realized within the first week that my boyfriend had split alters.  It took me three years to fully see it and comprehend it.  He saw it within a week.  But that's because I had zero background knowledge on this.  Anyway, long story short, several years later when I finally learned about this stuff I realized....the odds of me (and what I've got going on) being involved with him, a guy with split personalities and a Dad who's NSA is absolutely astronomical.   I mean, seriously..........what the HELL??   Then my Dad informed me back in 2002 that when he was in the Navy, he didn't report to the Navy, but rather........the NSA.   And I heard the sound of "CLICK" going in my brain.  ding ding ding.  Things clicking into place.   Ahhhh. NOW I get it, I thought.   Both of our Dads are / were NSA.          Got it.   I just know too that after we broke up and I went maybe 2 or 3 weeks or so without seeing him, then I saw him again, it was fricking SURREAL being face to face with him.  It was like looking at a stranger, the ground felt like it dropped out from under me when I saw him again, like, "oh - my - god -----WHY WAS I WITH HIM????"  3 1/2 years of dating......................and I felt like he was a complete and total stranger to me. 

Programming.  And now that I was away, the programming was fading.  I'd never experienced that with any other ex.  I won't get into the theories of why I was programmed to be with him, it's not important, but I just wanted to give one particular example.

It does.  It totally absolutely does.   I just know that the relationship I just outlined was a learning lesson for me, and I use it as a gauge now.   There were a lot of warning signs and major intuitive nudges throughout the entire time I was with him trying to let me know something was wrong and off, but I didn't listen.

I listen now.   I make sure to carefully watch for any of those signs.   I'd rather be alone than go through that.   

I think too that whole "allow" thing can also have a positive aspect to it.......not being allowed to be with someone unless I'm already linked to them on a higher (positive) level.   It doesn't have to all be negative manipulation by aliens and military people.   The one example I just cited is an example of a negative manipulation.   But there are positive sides to things too.   We're not all just victims of neferous forces.   We have our higher selves in the mix as well, who are looking out for us and offering protection, intervention, and getting us to cross paths with others that are on our level and good for us.(whichis what I believe / know my current situation to be.  I've had several things confirm this.)      So cheer up!     Seriously, don't worry.   It's not all terrible.  This IS good out there, doing its thing.   All I can advise for anybody who thinks they might have something like this going on in is to  A)  Do the research;  learn about the signs and symptoms, to make sure you even qualify.  I mean, no sense in getting worried and worked up if that's not even what's happening to ya, right?   And B)  Carefully moniter your relationships.  Be watchful, that's all.  Listen to what your intuition is telling you, monitor your thoughts, feelings and actions, and theirs as well.   On the one hand it REALLY sucks if only one person is aware.  It means the other is liable to get tossed around on the waves of life, a victim to anything that wants to work through them or use them.     So it really REALLY helps to find people who are aware and on the level...........or at least open to learning about these things if they're not currently up to speed.   

I don't have a pat answer to end this on a totally 100% happy note, because this side topic isn't all positive.   It is what it is.  We can only be aware.   It's the only weapon we have.