Request for active moderation (Page 1 of 8)

Well put.

Funny you should say that, I was thinking today about discontinuing my participation on the NR forum. It is becoming a "haven" (pun intended) for some very easily offended folks who have a strong belief system to defend. I had a feeling that I would be targetted again today if I made any posts and so I almost didn't, but I wanted to respond to tilli's postings in the Twin Flame thread. So, I thought, "f*ck it, I'm not gonna let these narrow minded idiots chase me away," and I responded to her. And, wouldn't you know it, I get flamed almost immediately after posting. I make no apologies for my use of harsh language when dealing with these individuals. They are stupid annoying fucks as far as I am concerned, and I echo your concerns about them affecting the quality of posts and posters here.

EDIT: After talking to Kathy (freeme) about this, I'd just like to add one other thing here and then I am done with this. Although my comments above relate primarily to Haven and John the Revelator, I'd also like to add some additional thoughts about our other friend, Moralman. That guy is just a complete time waster, folks. He posts questions here like he's open to learning from the replies, but when the replies are in he just states his already assumed Biblical/2012 obsessed point of view. He is also completely intolerant of uniqueness and individuality, bigoted, and genuinely homophobic. Oh sure, he tries to gloss it over, but he's shown his true colors far too many times to adequately apply damage control later. To me, Noble Realms is a community of LEARNERS. If you aren't here to learn, if you just want to preach your own narrow minded, homophobic, juvenile crap, then this is probably not the place for you.

Great, then lets fix this and get back to business as normal here. This is all just a time wasting distraction.

T-Ren - No qualms here.

I agree with everything said here. While I'm certainly not considering giving up on this forum just yet, there's only so much more nonsense I can take from people like Moralman and his new friends.

I doubt anyone here wants to see authoritarian style moderation and have strict rules about what can or can't be said. However, I do feel that a line has to be drawn somewhere, and Moralman has certainly crossed over that line a few too many times recently.

If you want to talk about wrestling, find a wrestling forum. If all you want to do is talk about Jesus then please go and find a Christian forum. Noble Realms is for open-minded truthseekers who just want to be friends and learn from each other. And learning does not mean constantly asking silly questions all the time, while not even making any attempt to understand the answers.

Andy

Some valid points are raised.  The action that was recently taken to secure Tom a faster and more stable connection to the net may act to quench much of these concerns.  Mainly, as Tom is the sole moderator for the forum, it'll only help to have him around more often.

Hi all,

Well, there's also the option to just ignore somebody.   It usually works wonders.   Until the problem gets resolved and the troublemakers get banned or leave on their own, I think in the time being we should all just ignore their posts.   

-  If they quote you and challenge something you say......don't respond.   There's no law in the world of messageboards that say anybody has to respond to anyone.   Just ignore it.  If you can't, then it's ego talking, making you feel that you "have" to respond to defend yourself, your beliefs, your words, etc.   I know, cause I found myself doing that as well with Moralman, trying to endlessly clarify my own words which he kept twisting around.  I have also had to resort to the "ignore" tactic with another poster here who was doing their best to try to "draw me out" and provoke responses from me over and over and over.   It works, trust me.   Fights and debates are a 2 way street, remember that.  It takes two to tango.   If one half of the equation refuses to play, then there's no game.   

-  If they make a reference to you in their post to somebody else.....ignore it.   Squelch ego and just ignore it.  Look the other way. 

- If they start a thread..........don't participate.   Read it if you want, sure, but don't contribute.   I mean, everybody here is responsible for whether or not they type a response then push the "SUBMIT" button.    Don't even make the post in the first place!    How hard is that??    How hard is it to get up and walk away from your computer?   When you really think about the nature of the 'net and messageboards especially, it really is one of those things that "becomes real" in our heads.   It's words on a screen that our minds make real.   There's a certain degree of "getting lost in fantasy" that takes place when participating on a messageboard.   Ideas become laced with feelings and emotions that don't actually physically exist until your brain creates it.  Words on a screen become "someone" that's provoking you.  I mean, think about it. 

Anyway, eventually the troublemakers will hang themselves, and you can walk away looking better then you would have had you succombed to ego and responded and fought and squabbled.

My concern the same as morningsun76's, that new posters to NR will be turned off by what just happened recently.   Some long time posters who contribute greatly have been put in positions where they now look very unsavory, to say the least.  Both by the actions of others, as well as their own behavior in response.  Me included, I'm sure, for saying that I don't think Moralman is "all there" and thinking that wrestling is something silly to be concerned about.   It all boils down to getting an upperhand on self control...