My experiences are very similar.  The internet was such a great tool because it reflected this phenomena....I would have certain thoughts or conversations and then it would be reflected in my emails or in responses to forums in which I had participated.  It's a great realization to have because it does explain a lot! 

And as you said sometimes the internet can actually bring more powerful responses.  One healer who has worked with me says she feels like she is more effective in distance healing....and between the hands on and distance work she has done with me, I could feel effects both times.  However, when I was experiencing distance healing I felt that I was doing a lot more work.  Perhaps there is something that explains this....like in the astral plane there is more space for these energies and so they can be more intense than in face-to-face relations when a lot of other noise is coming into play.  Intuitively it somehow makes sense to me, but I cannot really articulate why right now.

For me, there have been a few teachers and healers along the way that have really helped me with all of this.  I don't know if SamIAm can find someone who can work with him effectively.  For me that was and is such an important part of this process.

I lived for years being driven to distraction with other people's thoughts coming into my head, and I had no idea.  I thought it was just my overactive brain thinking too hard.  When I first started using the internet, it suddenly became blatently obvious, because I would wake up in the middle of the night thinking about someone, and later find out that person had sent me an email at exactly that time of the night.  That finally explained a lot about things I had experienced throughout my life.  I had to learn how to filter it out, fast, because when you use the internet and post on public message boards, you are basically opening yourself up to the entire world, or least everyone in the world who has an internet connection.  The feedback you get through the internet on an energy level can actually be a lot more intense and overwhelming than when you go about your day meeting people one by one in person. 

I am so sensitive that I tend to have physical reactions to the energy around me.  I rarely "see" things with etheric vision, but I feel sensations of energy intensely.  I envy people who can see clairvoyantly, because I feel like they know who or what they are dealing with, they can see it!  Whereas I just have to interpret it through my feelings.  Sometimes I get overwhelmed by denser energies, and those drown out the more subtle energies...which is often exactly what the person or entity with denser energies wants to do!  When a person is really angry with me my entire body shakes from head to toe.  It is much more difficult to understand what a gentle spirit is whispering to me when an irrational human being is screaming at me telepathically.  But like you said tillibullu, the way we think about others changes our interactions with them.  It's usually better to work with the energy to shift the situation before you meet with them again.

Sometimes people resist using their psychic abilities because of things that are happening to them in other lifetimes.  Many people have been persecuted or even killed in other times and places for demonstrating their abilities.  Some of us may have misused our psychic powers in another life, or witnessed others doing so, and swore to never allow it to happen again.  Or Sam, you might have been a healer in another life who was never allowed a minute of peace, because people surrounded you begging for your help.  These issues won't surface unless they are affecting your present life, but if you feel this could be a factor, you might want to try breaking contracts or vows you have made in other lives.

I frequently experience telepathy/esp.  Knowing who is about to call.  Having a conversation with a friend in my mind and then they randomly contact me to discuss the same subject.  And here I include people I literally haven't seen or heard from sometimes in years.

You can test this out yourself easily as long as you are at the point where you are able to really watch your thoughts.  Mostly I find this phenomenon happens without my consciously attempting to manipulate or influence.  However, I can consciously manipulate it.  For example, I have learned that when I am frustrated with someone or angry with them, my mental chatter with that person strongly influences my interactions with them the next time I see them.  If I can stop arguing and fighting with them in my mind--even if I cannot forgive, at least send them love--I absolutely change the energy of the interaction the next time we meet.

Also, although everyone has some level of clairvoyance (or other psychic powers thru other senses) some people are especially gifted.

Also, having experiences of the Highest Love (which would bring this direct experience knowledge that you crave) will annhilate your illusions.

So it might be that there is some fear or reluctance lurking.  As much as your mind is saying, "I really want one of these essential experiences" you might also have terror about it!

Yes!  I think we all go through this, I know I do.  There are many things I am holding myself back from experiencing, or in some cases reexperiencing, because I feel a sense of fear about it.  I think deep down, maybe it is just a fear of being loved, and the ultimate feeling that comes in a spiritual experience is that you are loved no matter what.  All of our programming, beliefs, and opinions about ourselves become meaningless in light of that. 

I was thinking on this some more Sam and I wonder if you could be overlooking some of the signals that will let you in to the kind of experiences you want to have.  Psychic abilities can be very, very subtle at times, because you are working with subtle energies, higher energies, and situations that are not literal.  It is not always going to come up and tap you on the shoulder to say:  here you are having a psychic experience.  Sometimes you might not understand or recognize something until you find yourself in a particular situation where it does become very obvious and literal.  I find that I don't get hit over the head with something unless I have been missing the more subtle messages along the way. 

When I was growing up I always knew that I had certain abilities, but I doubted myself enough to the point of shutting it down because no one around me talking about those things.  For many years I wasn't even able to find books that really discussed the kinds of experiences I was having.  I had no map so to speak to navigate my way, and it would take something really obvious and literal to get through to me.  For instance it took me a long time to understand how strong my telepathic ability is.  I would find myself thinking about other people and have no external signs to tell me that it might actually be coming from their thoughts instead of mine.  I learned about it through using the internet, because I began to see concrete examples of it.  I would find that the thoughts I picked up from other people matched things they said a bit later on message boards or emails.  When I have a conversation with someone in person, they might not share those thoughts with me verbally, unless I pick up on it and give them an opening to talk about it. 

Sometimes relationships of any type can be blocked because it would not be good for you to become close to a certain person.  If you are incompatible with them on some level there will be a resistance in energy.  It will be harder to connect with that person, maybe there will be missed phone calls or emails, or things that come up to keep you from meeting with them.  Sometimes this can result from interference by other parties, but most of the time I feel it is actually for a good reason.

Everything is unfolding at the Great Spirit's rate, not the rate of your MIND's IDEAS about when things should unfold.  Forget comparison.  I have had some incredible experiences, but I still get discouraged at times.  I also find myself envying the clairvoyance of others which seems to surpass mine.  But then something will happen to surprise me and help me to realize how much I have been unfolding all along.

You would not be interested in this website unless your higher self was resonating with something that we are discussing  here.  Trust me, there are many, many, many people whose consciousness would shut down completely while reading these forums.  It would send them to sleep because their waking selves are not ready to entertain these concepts.

Pray for signs that will give you direct knowledge and experience.  And also check in your subconscious---perhaps you have some fears or resistances that are preventing these experiences from coming into your life?

I am not sure if thinking about relationships too much will push them away.

But I am not clear enough on what this "thinking so much" entails.

I wonder, however, if you are pushing away relationships because of ego's fear of Love.

True Love will annhilate your Ego's illusions.  Because your Ego/Mind attaches to those illusions as if they were reality and as if they were your true identity, this dissolution of your illusions feels like death, like real death.

Love takes you through this process.

Also, having experiences of the Highest Love (which would bring this direct experience knowledge that you crave) will annhilate your illusions.

So it might be that there is some fear or reluctance lurking.  As much as your mind is saying, "I really want one of these essential experiences" you might also have terror about it!

Also, you might be trying too hard.  Forget trying, practicing, yearning, searching.  Just stop.  If you can absolutely stop for even one moment then the truth of who you are can shine through.  You will have direct experience and you will know beyond any question.

This might require that you go out and do something that you really really enjoy and forget about the search.  The experience might creep up on you when you stop looking.

Can you see that you are a Being of Light and that your true identity is not your body, mind, personality, nationality, race, religion....but your true identity is infinite consciousness?

P.S.  I don't know where you live but if there are clairvoyant healers or astral body healers you can find they can help remove any entities that are blocking your opening.  This might also require that you do some work in cutting contracts with those entities that are not serving you.

How did I move beyond it?  I guess you are asking for advice.  Well, in a sense I gave up, gave in, let go.  The door kept being closed and I kept banding my head into it.  I guess at some point I was tired of banging my head.  I then realized that seeking these things wasn't going to help me anyway.  It took awhile to come to that conclusion because it goes against logic.  Logic tells me that if I had some of these extra talents that I could do this or that or whatever.

And that's true but what kind of challenge would it be if I had my higher powers.  I mean you got some galactic bragging rights if you can come into this black hole of a society and actually progress to a point beyond duality.  All the MILAB people can go suck it.  They have all the technology and all the power but they can't stop me.  This is the attitude that helped me out of my victim stupor.  My attitude is more refined now but at some point I had to stand up and take responsibility.  I don't mean take responsibility for the cage or that I brought on the actions of others through negativity.  I mean take responsibility for just being.  All the other mess is temporary.  If I kept seeking outside myself, then 'myself' might not be able to handle a face-to-face with infinity.

If the sun goes super-nova tomorrow all the reiki in the world won't help you.  But seeking the depths of self will.  Obviously, not in the 3d physical sense but an extinction level event would be no more an issue than changing jobs.  It might be a bit weird at first but you have prepared you for it.  And with a prepared "you", you will be able to help others.  Without a prepared "you", you would be of no benefit to others.  The blind leading the blind and they both fall.

So that's part of the way I got through what you are going through.  The use of "you" is not specifically referencing you unless you find it useful.  Just easier to write that way.

This is a major turning point if you can turn it.  Going from discouraged to envigored is really only a moment away.  You just have to figure out how to create that moment for yourself.  You know yourself best so you are the best person to ask.

The serenity prayer helped me many times too.  "God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."

Those things had to come from inside not out.  And once you find yourself trully, you will forget about all this other stuff.  You will know inside that whether you OBE or not, it doesn't make any difference whatsoever.

I think this is pretty common but it can be caused by many things.  Obviously it can happen if you are tired, but I'm sure you realize that.  Falling asleep like that can also be a programming mechanism.  Do you tend to get sleepy in other situations?

I found one way to go back is to meditate with a mantra such as "I want to open my third eye"  I just repeat that over and over.  While I was repeating it I made sure to understand the risks that I was taking, and to address any fears that were brought up, and then to ask myself again "Do I really want to do this?"  If I do, I express determination and conviction towards my chosen mantra.  Any time I found my thoughts drifting I used the mantra to force myself back by focusing on what each word of the mantra means.  The mantra, I found, is just a tool to force my focus on what it is I want to see and to bring myself back to that thought whenever distraction interrupts my intentions.  The more power and confidence I express in repeating my Mantra the better it seem to work at manifesting a result. 

I've used this mantra meditation to bring me to the doorway of the third eye and take a peek through.  But my fear of seeing whats on the other side every time shuts the door immediately.  It brings up fear of physical and ego death, loss of friends and family if I lose my grip here.  This is why I know if I go through before I am strong enough I risk losing all those things upon my return.

This may sound ridiculous, but perhaps you are putting out so much raw effort in trying that you are blocking the particular manifestation from happening?  A suitable analogy can be made to the process of intention and manifestation.  If you intend something and then think about it all day worrying if it will work or not, chances are it won't.  When you make and set the intention aside and then forget about it (with the insurance of faith), the intelligence of the universe has a way of putting it together in a way that is efficient and sensical. 

Another factor involved is your Higher Self (the real you) and what it's lesson plan is for this incarnation.  If having certain powers or abilities were to be detrimental to your core development then they will not be "turned on" until the setting and circumstance are appropriate.  Your chosen path (whatever that is) could be majorly diverted if you were to gain access to hidden knowledge/ability prematurely.  All in due time. 

While effort (trying) is the positive action, a negative or passive state is also required to attract/accept the manifestation.  Effort is required but an imbalance will cause the tires to spin and will stagnate development along certain lines.

To realize that your Higher Self has been backing you the whole time can be a great comfort, enlivening you spirit and enlightening your mind.  If it hadn't been you would most likely not be HERE right now.

You may find it beneficial to have a heart to heart with your inner/higher self about this. You could try stating that you intend to experience something profound and positive that solidifies your awareness of the unkown and helps to keep you seeking by reinforcing the mystery, or something to that affect.  There is also the option of experiencing something negative to shock the self into waking up to the existance of "dark forces", but this isn't necessary for all.

The experience could come in a variety of forms including a lucid dream, OBE, telepathy, synchs, etc.  It's clear that you have experienced odd happenings before and they have so far acted as proof of the spiritual reality of things.  Use those expreriences as momentous source material, but also try to keep a passive lookout for new experiences that will help you pierce the veil of illusion bit by bit.

You say you've had success with the mirror exercises, as well as feeling vibrations.  Pay attention to those, try to strengthen them, and perhaps other doorways of perception will open.   By strengthening channels you already have, you can increase or open other channels.

Regarding your intuition:  spend time remembering the times it was correct, no matter how few and far between those times were.  Dwell on them, and let your mind wander.  What did it feel like?  How was it different than times you were wrong?  Were you either wishing or fearing something would happen-- thus drowning out your inner voice?  These are just examples of the questions to ask yourself when you relive these memories.

Also, do you have any idea which of your everyday senses is dominant?  That may be a clue as to which type of extra-sensory perception is strongest.  I'm wondering if you're an auditory person, since you mentioned that music moves you.

Sounds like you did very small doses of salvia and shrooms.  If you have ever taken a large dose of either, I promise you will get WAY more than wavy sounds and bright lights.  Next time you eat shrooms, make sure to eat at least 7 grams (if you have done that and still just had brighter lights, you must have extraordinary natural tolerance, in which case 14 grams would be about right).

But before you do that, stop trying so hard.  You can't force spiritual experiences.  I think what you need to try is the Inner Smile.  It is at once the opposite of spiritual experience, in that it is supremely grounding, and yet the most profound spiritual practice.

Read this book, it should be a good start.  I know it sounds funny that I'm recommending some practice after a long list of failed practices, but it seems as if all those practices were aimed at achieving something external or other, whereas what I'm recommending is radical acceptance of what IS.

Try this

http://www.healingdao.com/pdf/innersmile.pdf

My question for you is, is how did you come to be interested in the spiritual side of things?  Was it the dreams that you had?

I've tried seeing/feeling my chakras, but I've never been able too see or feel them.

I've tried meditation but I usually just fall asleep, and wake up feeling more drained.

I've tried using my psychic abilities, but I tend to be wrong more times than right.

I've tried OBE/astral projection, but it never worked for me.
(I usually just fall asleep, even if I'm not laying down!)

I've tried following my "intuition"/ "gut feelings" but their usually way off.

I've tried the law of attraction but I forget about what I thought
about and it never seems to manifest over time, or I indulge in
thinking about something so much I push it away (in the case of relationships).

I was attuned to reiki master (before breaking the contract), and I never felt the energy
at all come out of my palms. (I think most of the time I was lying to myself to even feel it.)

I've tried healing by different means.  Sound, Reiki, EFT, Energy medicine. 
But none of them seemed to do much for me, or my family/friends.

I've tried some drugs [weed / shrooms / salvia divorium] but didn't experience
anything really unsual.  Lights seemed brighter, sounds seemed wavier.  That's about it.

All of these things leave me discouraged.  You'd think after years of trying these things out something would happen for me, but nothing has.  I wish I could see energy/auras/ spirits so I could believe in it. 

The only things that keep me believing in the spirit world are the 3 alien experiences/dreams I've had, mirror meditations I've done where I saw my face change in the mirror, and the vibrating sensations I've felt while thinking about love or listening to uplifting music.   

Despite those few odd experiences I've had the only thing that really keeps me beliving is forums like this, and reading other's encounters/expereinces.  I wish I could see/feel more.  It's hard to talk to people about spirituality, and the spirit world when you haven't experienced it to such a degree to even believe it. It leaves me doubtful.  It leaves me discouraged most of the time. 

All of my information on the spirit world comes from books, articles, and forums.  None of it comes from my own experiences.  I'm sure most people feel like I do but we would like to see/feel more to believe!