It seems that you have inspired another avalanche of beliefs which, as you say, are many.
My own beliefs are founded upon my own like-experiences often in participation with many other people who are no doubt having their own life-experiences and gaining from it all renditions of reality that differ.
The diversities of life are infinite and so are the reasons for each of them existing since there is a story behind each one.
I interpret the ones that I experience in my own unique way and you in yours.
It seems to me we each contain within ourselves our own truth.
Sometimes when an individual discovers his or her own truth it can be the moment of transformation, or in some cases destruction.
But I think it can only be found through experiencing the diversity that surrounds us and that can mean breaking with the old and exploring the new.

It's not about being what you want to be as being what you are.  If you clear away the clutter, then you could be what you would naturally become.

Beautifully and succintly put

How do ideas 1,2 & 3 may effect on what we want be?

Vise versa, the practice of STS and Destruction/self-destruction, Death in the lower densities, is for Total Melancholy (where the Black Hole leads to) Non-Being in a non-duality state.

From the Non-Being comes the Being.

You are a combination of STS, STO, Being and Non-Being.

The Zen practice eventually leads to a no-interfere, flow with the Tao, non-duality state, which it seems, is the state beyond STS and STO.

Whether you'll be just a being who realized the highest density state/Nirvana or a being who realized it, but also have much much creativity with him, whether you'll Be the most or non-Be the most, that's where the job in the lower densities counts.

You create your reality, but what do you realize is you? / What are the infuences on you?
Where does your intent/non-intent directed to? How Many levels of Intent/Non-intent there are in you?
Where does the vector points now? /  Where does the path of the one leads?

Isn't this the whole thing?

You have a point, T-Ren, in that existing in a flawed existence sort of puts it in our face and forces us to realize a state of just being, equating it with love, which is a good example of what a large part of love is.  I tend to believe that living in a flawed existence exercises free-will, even if it seems a bit unfair that we are essentially left to the wolves.  It does lend to the fact that we already have the capability and we just need to realize it, and we are all capable of realizing this fact.  However, once it is known, one should move on from that lesson.

As for leap-frogging, I tend to think that it wouldn't be so much accelerating as it is setting the appropriate pace.  I think most people, the people that live spiritually while not devoting their entire lives to their spirituality, are actually learning slower than they naturally should or potentially could.  I think that merely existing isn't in contrast to spirituality, and should be much more natural.

If life/existence is about progression though, then isn't in this realm of polarites (probably to the extreme degree) perfect to learn the ultimate love and being able to fully realise who you are and prove your direction change(if wanted or needed)? To realise that love is love not just when things are subjectively "good" but most likeley more so when things are going "bad" or "evil" things happen to you. Because if love is love it "remembers no wrong" then it will always respond in love regardless because it "just is" it is "just being" who it really is.

Probably only in the highest realm is there no polarities, because up until then there is still even STO and STS. Does learning to just be that highest understanding of love or STO leap frog you through some realms? I don't know, but it's worth the hope and try eh.

What I have been wondering is that perhaps we've even gotten that wrong.  Just being is a great attitude, because there is no tendency to linger in a frame of mind for way too long.  But, in the way that most of us do it, we still make the potential mistake of actually embracing a viewpoint, any viewpoint, which leads us to form a groove as we funnel all knowledge through a narrow point of interpretation until we are forced out of that viewpoint by more energy than should be necessary.  Believing in something always constricts us in the long run, as we make whatever happens fit a certain criteria, or we neglect other information that doesn't readily lend itself to supporting our beliefs.

I'm not saying that believing or knowing certain things is harmful.  It is helpful, but less effective in attaining the highest level possible.  If what you believe allows you to interact with the essential nature of existence because it transforms unformed energies into a more mentally malleable substance, then it is beneficial to yourself, but it may ultimately be a passing interpretation and potentially more harmful than helpful.

Perhaps the correct way to do it is to not embrace any viewpoint and just let whatever is happening to happen.  Perhaps the correct way is to let things be what they are without interpretation, so that we do not hinder the process.  If we can let go of what we think it is and focus on existing in the now, then perhaps our progress would be more genuine and much less slower as we exhibit tendencies to be more flexible and less confining in our activities and attitudes.  Instead, we tend to only focus on what adheres to our desires.  Once we stop trying to make things be a certain way, once we give up the need to label or make things conform to our interpretation, perhaps we can start understanding the essential nature of a situation in a manner that goes beyond our current level of being to a level that promotes a higher level of interaction.

So, I don't think "just being" means to believe what you believe because it leads to the next step.  I think "just being" means to not interpret your existence beyond which comes naturally through merely existing.