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Healing /changing from succumbing to this takes a tremendous amount of introspection, non-judgemental caring from others, and patience.
Definitely. And for me non-judgmental caring from others has not been the easiest part, since those in the victim mode tend to naturally attract those in the predator mode. I feel like it's taking me a tremendous strenght and faith to open myself again despite the wounds, but I believe it's essential for these wounds to be healed, and the victim mode to be overcome. The importance of this paradox hit me very strongly this morning, after an intense dream...
Perhaps one may be sitting in their rocking chair at a ripe old age and come to the realization of why this particular aspect manifested in their lives. Maybe to eventually assist others in the same situaiton.
It makes no doubt wounded healers can offer the compassion and inspiration needed to assist others in their self-healing. A few weeks ago I met someone who had been so wounded by life that it was hard to imagine, and he had the strongest compassion I had ever felt. Just looking in his eyes made me almost cry the first time I talked to him (just thinking about it again wets my eyes). This is why I don't think suffering is necessarily useless -- it can bring a depth which goes beyond words.
]]>Healing /changing from succumbing to this takes a tremendous amount of introspection, non-judgemental caring from others, and patience. Perhaps one may be sitting in their rocking chair at a ripe old age and come to the realization of why this particular aspect manifested in their lives. Maybe to eventually assist others in the same situaiton.
Perhaps it is something that ultimately serves as fodder for those who thrive upon negative /painful/hurtful emotions. Who knows?
Anyway, I feel one must digest "things" at the pace that is right for themselves-support systems to enhance this process are a gift at best, destructive at worst. We must ultimately choose what is right for ourselves.
]]>Ever heard of Bonsai kitties? JK
I really hope you were kidding about that. Oh wait........I just noticed the JK. ! I heard Bonsais were an urban legend, and I hope that's the case!! (snopes, anybody??)
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]]>Ok THATS IT. I'm buying a damn kitten.
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Here's my part to do the same:
